...is the message of a picture I found tonight.
That got my philosophic mind going and I wrote a long comment to that picture, because it is a topic that bothered me too for a long time. I want to share this comment with you, because it's something I want every woman to know, who is unhappy with her body.Not everyone is skinny - and it is good this way!
It's a shame what the fashion world and media have done to us people. Don't listen to them all! Don't read tabloid trash that makes fun of the celebrities' imperfections, letting cellulite and pimples look like abominations out of hell. It makes me sick!
We all should love our bodies. You, yourself, have to be satisfied, nobody else. I'm not perfect either and I learned to love my body. It is important to accept your own body features ( and I'm not using the word "imperfection" on purpose, because who set the values for perfection? Who the fuck decided what perfection is???
), to embrace yourself. Go, undress and stand in front of the mirror and start posing in front of it like you're fracking aphrodite!
Go do it! Because you are the most important person who has to accept yourself. You have one life, one body, so don't let anybody tell you how you have to look or dress.
I'm not satisfied with my body completely, I admit that. Sometimes I wish to be thinner because overweight is not that healthy. And this is the only thing that matters in my opinion: health. If you want to lose weight, then do it because you want it for yourself, because you decided that for reasonable reasons.
Bullying is nothing somebody can just get over and forget, that sticks to a person. But I believe that it is possible to convince yourself with facts. Look into the mirror and embrace who you are. Accept your body as it is and if you notice that you're unsatisfied, then do something about it. And if you do that, make clear to yourself why you want to change. Not because someone told you, but because you decided it out of a reason.
When I think that I want to lose weight then it is because I'm afraid of dying early (I inherited a bunch of overweight diseases, overweight itself is inherited in my family) and because I wear off my jeans after about three months, because my legs rub against each other. Also because of that I can't wear skirts in summer without leggings under the skirt. That hinders me and gives me reason to change my body.
I'm afraid I'm getting lost a little bit in my comment, but I hope you understand my message. I know what you mean. I know what pressure lies on us women (pressure lies on men btw too but that's another topic). But I also know that it's possible to get rid of that pressure, at least for most of the time. I have my "I'm so fat and ugly"-moments too, sometimes. But most of the time I know that I'm chubby, I know that millions of men (and women) love chubby girls. I know what I have and I like most of it. And I really really hope that I could help you just a little bit with my message. I've seen your dA ID, you are beautiful! You have a very cute smile and a very female face. Yes it's chubby and that looks great and very feminine!
So this is basically what I wrote into the comment, with a few additions.
Whoever just read this, I hope I could help you. At least I hope I could help you to give yourself the chance to overthink your own opinion of yourself. This change of mind doesn't happen over night. But it starts right in that moment when you put on some clothes you like or lingerie or even no clothes at all, put on some sexy make up if you want (only if you want, because it's no rule that you have to wear make up to look sexy), make your hair pretty and pose in front of the damned mirror. I mean it, because you have to convince yourself
, nobody else!
And just to make clear: skinny people are just as natural as chubby people. I know that there exist girls who suffer of the opposite and I could tell you all just the same. Embrace yourself as you are. You don't have to be rounder just because somebody says that only round women look female. If nature made you this way then you are perfect.
It is a lesson I learned from my grandgrandmother. She told me that everyone is beautiful the way she/he is, even if your nose is bigger than average or your legs are "too short" or your ears "too big" or whatever you think makes you ugly. I mean, look at those Hollywood victims, destroyed by botox and plastic surgery. Do you know why most people consider them ugly? Because when they change their appearance by knife, they're not natural anymore. Their natural beauty is out of balance
Look at it from the scientific view. I mean, nature is fucking awesome, right? All that flora and fauna is epic. If you've watched a few good documentaries, then you know what I mean. The human body is so complex in it's creation, it's insane. And among all those countless species, we the humans evolved as the most powerful one. Think of it, we are a happy accident, created by the laws of nature and evolution (probably evolution is
a law of nature, I'm not sure here).
What I want to say is, that it's awesome that we exist in this huge universe, this planet full of genetic diversity. Nature created us that way. If it shouldn't have been this way, we wouldn't look like this, because it's fucking science and nature, bitch.
So who do those big fashion people and fashion magazine writers think they are to decide what's perfect and why are you
giving them the authority to make those universal rules? Who are those sassy, superficial bitches who bully normal people, to think they are the authority to judge you? And think of it, if those bitches believe those measures of outer apperance to be right, then they are even more damaged than they know.
No matter where you come from, who raised you, who bullied you and who loved you. You are a creation of nature. Maybe it sounds stupid, but think of the weight of this sentence.
You evolved from something that started 4,6 billions years ago. You exist. Nature made you look this way. Because of that you are beautiful.
And now I'll leave you with some crème de la crème of my personal beauty favourites.